Book review by Kate Kort
My Perfect Wife, Her Perfect Son is a novel that has stayed with me in the best possible way. This funny, relatable, heartfelt exploration of St. Joseph's story strikes the perfect balance of biblical knowledge and modern storytelling.
As a Jew, I appreciate how Benevento displays a deep knowledge of Jewish practices of the time, and as a reader, I love how he dives deeply into each character, connecting us to their universally human emotions. Joseph is an incredible everyman, struggling with his role in an
increasingly challenging divine plan. Maybe we never imagined that Joseph, a humble and hardworking man who marries the beautiful and divine Mary, would be miserable! But this is exactly why Benevento’s novel is so needed. The focus is almost always on Mary and Jesus, which makes sense, but Joseph clearly has his own story to tell, and it fleshes out the entire family picture. We feel for him each step of the way, and overall, his profound love for his family is his most relatable and admirable trait.
The voice and narration are spot-on; Benevento uses modern language--and a fantastic sense of humor--to perfectly balance the historical complexities of the story. Though the story of this extraordinary family is well-known to many, following the events through Joseph’s perspective gives it a fresh and unique angle. Not all of Joseph’s troubles stem from Mary’s divinity: he struggles to provide for his family, to maintain the monogamy to his wife he deeply believes is right, and to raise his son to uphold his own values. These are universal challenges, but Joseph’s special circumstances make us sympathize with him that much more. Benevento also makes us as readers ask ourselves how we would handle all that is thrown at this man.
I was not intimately familiar with the specifics of the biblical story of Joseph, Mary, and Jesus, so it was indeed rewarding to dive deeper into what was taken from its source and what was taken from Benevento’s creative imagination. The two are woven together seamlessly and bring the characters to vivid life, not only in their own time but also into modernity. I came to understand that very little is known about Joseph himself, and he is almost always discussed in relation to Mary and Jesus. But, as this novel shows us, he must have been a person in his own right, with thoughts and feelings we would likely relate to. He may not have been a divine being, but he was surely given his role for a reason. And I can easily see how the Joseph of this novel would be worthy of such responsibility.
I am blown away by Benevento’s breadth of biblical knowledge, which bolsters the story but never outweighs the humanity and development of the characters. I love that we are not just reading this novel with the end goal of discovering Jesus’ divinity and thus the birth of a religion; the holy family’s struggle and evolution—its coming of age—is its own story and deserves all the care and attention Benevento has given it. I feel I have come to know Joseph and his family, not as two-dimensional figures kept at a holy distance, but as I would come to know neighbors or friends.
I also didn’t expect such incredible humor from this story. I’m sure it was a difficult line to walk, giving the narrative funny, touching, and human moments, while also making sure it didn’t veer off into irreverence. It doesn’t. The humor is a welcome balance to the heaviness that sometimes weighs upon Joseph’s life, and it makes him feel even more natural and relatable as a character.
Ultimately, what Joe Benevento has created with My Perfect Wife, Her Perfect Son is one man’s
heartfelt determination to be the best person he can to those he loves the most. And while I may not have expected to say this about a work of biblical fiction, it was impossible to put down. I believe readers of all backgrounds, regardless of religion, will find wonder and joy in this novel.
Kate Kort was born in St. Louis, Missouri, in 1985. She studied English and world literature at Truman State University. She currently lives in a suburb of Portland, Oregon, with her husband and four children. She is the author of three novels from Brick Mantel Books: Glass (2015) and its sequel, Tempered (2023), as well as Laika (2017).
Book review by Rachel Fulton Brown
I did not expect to enjoy this book. I tend not to like free verse—I much prefer iambic pentameter—nor do I enjoy most modern efforts to imagine what Jesus or Mary thought or said. The idiom is always off, not scriptural enough, too psychoanalytical or colloquial, making Jesus anything but divine and his mother either victim or “strong woman,” at once too ordinary to be hailed as “full of grace” and too powerful ever to have said “Let it be to me.” A book of poems written in Mary’s voice without meter or rhyme? At best, I expected to be irritated, if not downright annoyed.
And yet, when Carl invited me to review his poems, I said yes, even as I questioned how it could be that I should find joy in them. What can I say? Mary has a way of nudging me when she wants me to look at something. The Song of Songs as sung at the feasts of her Assumption and Nativity, the psalms as sung in the Hours of the Virgin—these were the texts that medieval Christians turned to when they wanted to hear the voice of Mary speaking with her Son, about which I have previously written on other occasions at Mary’s behest. I say Mary’s behest, but more accurately, Wisdom’s, the voice of Our Lady conceived at the beginning of the world. I felt her nudge in Carl’s request. There is something here you need to learn. Do what he has asked you. Take, read.
What would it be like to be the Mother of the Word when the Word became flesh and dwelt among us? To be filled with words, and yet silent, keeping them in your heart? One might catch a whisper here, a gesture there. The Spirit blows where it wills, overshadowing the letter. Sentences are reduced to fragments and promises, changes in font taken up from the Font. Each word becomes a riddle stretched out on the Cross of the page, crucified with the Son. There are glimpses of veils, shadows of types, the poverty of print made medium for the Light. “Do whatever he tells you.” Trust Him. Take it slowly. Have patience as you follow the lines down the page, collecting gemstones and drops of blood.
It is cruel to ask a scholar to review a mosaic of Light, to render, dismember, shatter in prose. And yet who but a scholar—or lover—would catch every word? Hear the echoes of the tradition in the turn of half a phrase? The margins of the book fill with scribbled notes: I hate this effort to make heaven earthbound (on Mary sitting in the laundry, immaculately conceived). Like marginal labels in a medieval illuminated manuscript, glosses on images the poems assume (on Pilate’s wash water and the witnesses to His scourging). Mary knows the science of creation, quadrivium as well as trivium (on the chemical reaction of Good Friday’s leaded sky). Images leap out at you—tied to the creator of the world (“a lump of coal”).
Sometimes it is difficult to tell who is speaking to Whom, when punctuation fails and no words are capitalized. Only the pronouns merit a capital letter, condemned: Him, His, He. Does the Son speak of the father or the Father of his son when Isaac lies stretched on the cross “trussed up, in trust”? Citations to Scripture are throughout unmarked, leaving marks in the margins, the imagery slipping from Old Testament to New and back again, shimmering, bloody, hidden in a life-time of prayer.
Should I give my references? Tell you how I know that when Mary says (10)
thus I now see and I know
it’s not just a hypothesis, nor
it is Law
that she is speaking the Reality of love, the transfigured Trinity made three-dimensional on the Cross buried in her womb, as medieval commentators like Richard of St. Laurent averred? Can I explain how I know, with Mary, that Christ was marked with tattoos—in Black and Blue Old English on his right bicep “Born to Raze Hell!”, a Serpent Green & Red on his left forearm, a Valentine’s Heart over His breast, broken in two, labelled M-O-T H-E-R (13)—because I wear tattoos of my own on my shoulders and back? Can I tell you how it makes sense to see the Transfigured Christ in the flying crosses of the airplanes, including the one flat, dull, shadow-less and life-less, on the ground in its hangar, awaiting its Passenger (20–21), because I have lived through the mechanical horror of air travel myself?
Halfway through the book, the pain of understanding is almost (but not quite, because I am not Mary) too much to bear. Another marginal notation: Like eating the whole bar of chocolate in a single sitting, trying to read the whole book—“just one more.” And another: Difficult to read—force you to think—cannot glide over the words—not about “information.” We need instructions on how to read.
Another living poet comes to mind. Anglican priest and singer–songwriter Malcolm Guite writes about poetry as necessary to theology, to the understanding of the Incarnation: tasting the Words, hearing the Echoes and Counterpoints, delighting in the play of Images and Allusions, Ambiguity and Ambivalence, Perspective and Paradox: “Poetry may be especially fitted as a medium for helping us apprehend something of the mystery embodied in that phrase ‘the Word was made flesh’” (Faith, Hope and Poetry: Theology and the Poetic Imagination [London, 2008], 2). In Carl’s poems, we are in the presence of the Word whom only the womb of His mother could contain. Rhymes and puns live in the gaps between sense and sound; Mary is the kenning of Christ. It is impossible to read enough in the tradition to catch all the references. All the references are in Scripture, breathed out over centuries in the liturgy.
But the poems are incarnate, too. They depend on their layout on the page, on the line breaks and isolated words. Without meter or rhyme, they hold anticipation not in their sounds, but in their sense. They are incarnate, yet mute, handmaidens of spoken verse, structured in the pauses between words. This is a typographical Mary, the Mary hidden from the outside world, made visible on the page. Silent in her physicality, not to be quoted, as she remembers the day when her Son died. “X marks the spot” on the hill where the “decidedly veryUpperCase” “old Rugged Cross” stood, a marker for “latterday Pirates who / abbreviate their cache en vellum / with the selfsame Grecian phoneme” marked on the hands and feet of her Son and worn on ears, necks, breasts, and lapels, fashioned in silver and gold, “causing me to also reminisce ... / the day so long ago when Romans played / Pin the Cross on Jesus” (38). Those who have ears to hear, let them hear.
The title of the book promises coverage--The Gospel According ... to Mary—and so we read the Gospel not in linear time, but in memory, Mary’s memory overlapping events from Good Friday to Christmas, the time of her memory enfolded in the time of the liturgy, the cycle of seasons turning, turning in her memory like the laundry in the washer and dryer in the opening poem. Once I surrendered to the brokenness of the lines, the soiled references to the modern world (expected, but not expected to resonate), I found myself in a mosaic of light, a medieval worshipper sitting in darkness, sunlight streaming through the glass stained by the colors of story, God’s Incarnation into Time Past, now Time Future made Time Present. Yet another marginal notation, at a place where the line break broke apart the words: “first planted His minis- / Tree in the Great / Temple Hall” (67): aslant—looking aslant through figures / glass / refractions.
I cannot tell you what it was like for me to experience reading these poems, except in broken excerpts. Do we wonder to find Mary so silent in the Scriptures, she who contained in her womb the Word by which the heavens and earth were made?
Take, read. You will find in these poems good wine.
Rachel Fulton Brown is associate professor of History at the University of Chicago. She is author of From Judgement to Passion: Devotion to Christ and the Virgin Mary, 800–1200, and Mary and the Art of Prayer: The Hours of the Virgin in Medieval Christian Life and Thought, both published by Columbia University Press. She has co-authored and edited two books of poetry with the Dragon Common Room, her online classroom for training poets in iambic pentameter. She blogs on the internet mosaic as Fencing Bear at Prayer.
The Gospel According...to Mary by Carl Winderl
Carl's work on Foreshadow:
kneeling at the Manger (Poetry, December 2022)
at the anti-tower (Poetry, June 2022)
At Judas' funeral (Poetry, March 2022)
A Writer Is Always at Work (Part 1 of 2) (Interview, May 2021)
A Writer Is Always at Work (Part 2 of 2) (Interview, June 2021)